Welcome to White Cane Connections.

My name is Sue Boman. Yes, that’s me in the picture posted here. I have called this blog White Cane Connections because I am one of the many people who use a white cane. I began this blog because I wanted to write about a project I undertook in 2012. The plan was to complete a series of walks using my white cane. Between March and September, I walked in 82 different locations across Canada. So, the blog begins by telling of my experiences and the many people I met along the way.

While this particular journey has now been completed, I find that I still have much to write about. I am continuing to make new white cane connections, and so for the time being I will continue to add regular posts to this blog. I am hoping that you will be a partner in the journey.

Sue


Friday, 11 November 2016

November 11 - Blind or Sighted? Same or Different?



I have sometimes been asked what it feels like not being able to see. (Being very sensitive to political correctness of that question, I don’t think that anyone has asked me what it feels like to be partially sighted or blind.) Anyway, this week I was giving some thought to all this. What does it feel like to be blind or partially sighted? I came up with the following A to Z list of my feelings. On any given day, I might experience only one of these feelings or I might experience several. Of course this is a personal list and if others were making the list for me they might have a different perspective. What do you think?

Athletic. This is the way I would like to feel but in actual fact, I just enjoy walking and swimming. I think that I am in reasonable shape but I have had recent issues with my knee.  Are the years catching up?

Blessed. I feel very blessed to have a wonderful family and good friends.

Compassionate.  I often feel compassion for other people when I see them struggling with some aspect of their lives.

Daring. I once wrote a piece about the daring adventures of people who are blind or partially sighted. Some people accomplish amazing feats of daring and adventure. For me, daring and bravado can be on a much smaller scale.  I don’t need to climb mountains or run marathons. Sometimes crossing a busy road or walking alone into a crowded room can be a daring adventure in itself.

Exhilarated or Exuberant. My kids will be the first to tell you how excited I can be when something tickles my fancy.

Frustrated. Oh yes, the frustration builds when my technical  equipment – as  especially my computer – goes haywire.

Generous. I’m not always feeling generous but I like myself better when I am.

Happy. I feel happy most of the time.

Irritated. I feel irritated when someone fails to return a phone call or answer an email. I am left wondering how much time I should let elapse before I try again.

Just the same as most people – blind or sighted but with similar challenges and successes.

Kind. I try to be kind and most of the time I feel this way.

List oriented. I’ll bet that you never guessed this one! I am very fond of making lists.

Motivated. Occasionally I am asked to give a presentation as a motivational speaker. The interesting thing about this is that while I endeavour to motivate others, I end up feeling motivated myself.

Nostalgic. This year has been one for nostalgia. Our two grandchildren were born and more recently my mother passed away. All three events have seen me looking back and reliving some of the good times of past years.

Optimistic.  Generally speaking I tend to look on the bright side of things.

Passionate. When I am involved in a project I am invariably passionate about it. It’s really the only way to go.

Querulous. Why? Some days, I just feel in a bit of a prickly mood. No special reason - just a bit out of sorts.

Resigned. I am getting better at this.  When things are out of my control and there is nothing more I can do to rectify a situation, I try to   resign myself to that fact.

Sleepy. Is being sleepy a feeling? I’m not sure, but I do enjoy taking an occasional nap. This works well when we are travelling.  I can nearly always sleep on long car drives or flights.

Tolerant. Every year I make a new Year’s resolution to be more tolerant and hopefully some days during the year I live up to this resolve.

Up, down, all around. Do you know the rhyme of the Grand Old Duke of York?
He had ten thousand men.
He marched them up to the top of the hill and he marched them down again.
And when they’re up they’re up, and when they’re down they’re down, and when they’re only halfway up they’re neither up nor down.
Well, that’s me.  Mostly I’m up, but sometimes I’m down, and then there are the other times when I feel somewhere in between.

Visually Impaired. Yes, I know that we are encouraged to look on the positive half of the glass half full, but sometimes when I can’t see what I want or need to see, I don’t feel the glass half full of being partially sighted. I just feel the empty glass half of being visually impaired.

Weary. I feel this way sometimes when my “to do” list is too long for one day. Then I remind myself that tomorrow has another 24 hours in it and I can start all over again.

X-rated. I hope that the x-rated words that come to my mind when I am really angry aren’t ever expressed out loud.

Young. Maybe not physically young any more but young at heart is good too.
 Zest. No matter the other feelings, I always have a zest for life!

So, have you ever felt any of these same feelings? My next question is – are you blind or are you sighted? You see, I don’t think that it makes a huge difference. Whether we are blind or sighted, we are all just people. In some ways we are all the same and in other ways, we are just a little different.  If you are a list person like me, you might like to make up your own list. It’s an interesting exercise in self-reflection. 

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